and you thought Mean Girls was just another movie . . .
BOOK REVIEW: Queen Bees and Wannabes
My younger sister throws herself on the bed venting it’s “Just not fair! Why do ALL the other girls get to hang out this weekend, I’ll have no one if I don’t hang out with them.”
The end of the world has reigned down upon her, she wasn’t able to go to the mall with her girlfriends. It doesn’t matter that this little girl just went on a shopping spree that would make most adults jealous, that’s besides the point. My Mum doesn’t get it, I didn’t realize she was so out of the loop, but I do.
It’s going back to school on Monday not knowing where exactly you fit into the totem pole of the girls social pecking order. This pivital point could mean she can’t wear black for the next week because the leader of the group says so, or even worse, that she can’t shave her legs until they say it’s okay. Unbelievable, but it’s true. Every girl in highschool has to go through it. In private school it’s the worst, the resources to move to another clique are not available, you have to grin and bear it, or be exiled to not just being kicked out of having lunch with your table of friends, it’s eating all by yourself everyday, not being invited to the latest parties and social gatherings, and more importantly, it’s losing your network of friends.
The discovery of my latest read, Queen Bees and Wannabes, helps to articulate what girls experience in this complex social hierarchy. It gives validation to the feelings girls have when lost in the middle of power struggles that so many of us have had to endure. Topics explore everything from the unwritten girl code to the untapped region of the “Boy World” and how that translates to back to them- ranging from 6th grade to age 21. Through this book one may learn to use tools to help set healthy boundries and equip developing minds with their own voice. By taking responsibility for their own actions, young women are able to develop a sulf-suffiencent mind that may aid them into their adult years when sexual activity or domestic violence can become a frightening part of reality. This book helps the elder Overprotecter to stop trying to “fix” things and instead allowing room for these now enabled little minds to pride themselves on the decisions they are making for themselves.
While learning these social skills, not only am I able to become a better mentor for a girl I cherish so much, I am becoming a better woman for myself and a better example of what a respectable woman should be.